Posts tagged ‘inspiration’

Something like a Phenomena

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Folks over at Black Cotton Apparel got in contact with me to review one of the amazing “Natural” tees. Lucky for me I was drawn to the amazing “Natural Phenomena” tee. I wanted to choose a shirt that would be both uplifting for me and those that saw me in the tee. Once I came across the description behind the tee, I knew i just had to have it. The description posted with the shirt read:

When you walk down the street, you cant help but to turn heads.  Like a force of nature, you cannot be denied.  Black Cotton Apparel celebrates the natural phenomena that is you.

–  BlackCottonApparel.com

It was so me! Recently, I have been filled with smiles even when things may not feel all rosey. I have learned to accept people and things as they are. You cannot change anyone but yourself. I know it sounds very cliche but, it is true you have to change yourself if you want change. Well, let me get back to the tee! I put it on and my day felt brighter and I was many more smiles. It was midweek and I was happy to be alive and well. I was feeling exactly what the tee read, hence why the song kept playing in my head; “something like a phenomena, something like a phenomena”.

I say all of this to encourage you to be a phenomena, natural or not! Love who you are, where you will go and where you have come from. It is all a journey, whether we accept it or not one day you will have to. Appreciate all of your journey, good or bad, you where created for this.

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As well stop by Black Cotton Apparel; check out the tees get motivated. I know I did, shit I was feeling like like the phenomena I am Natural Crown and all. (*Excuse my poor quality front facing camera pic.)

& Guess What….You get 15% for being apart of my lovely Crew!! Use coupon code : NAT213. Get to it, you don’t want to miss out on something so phenomenal!!

Love yourself,

BkAphrodite

 

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Kings and Queens: Little’s edition!!

Hello all,

I have decided to bring something new and exciting to Aphrodite Kinks. You may have guessed it by the title…. Well, for sometime I wanted these slop a way to involve and inspire the moms and dads, when it comes to their natural haired littles. This being said I have developed Tressumé’s for the mommy’s and daddy’s of the natural littles community.

Please come along and share your journey with your children and their natural hair. If you would like to be apart of these interviews please do email me, BkAphrodite@gmail.com for details.

Love their Kinks,
BkAphrodite

Inspired By….Naturalistas

I decided to take the time out to acknowledge some of the Naturalistas out there that I see and feel are making an impact. These woman are strong, determined, and most of all BEAUTIFUL people. I wanted to make this post really awesome so I searched for quotes that I felt best described these women from what I see and know of them.

Imani


(TribeCalledCurl.com)
“We have to laugh. Because laughter, we already know, is the first evidence of freedom”

-Rosario Castellanos

A role model, outgoing, personable, an Aries (I couldn’t leave that out), a Curl Tribe Sista; also the one who encouraged me to see my true self.

Alexandra


(Shop-ALS.com, AlexElle.com,BreakfastwithAlex.com)
“Many people are inventive, sometimes cleverly so. But real creativity begins with the drive to work on and on and on.”

– Margueritte Harmon Bro

A mother, an artist, and an entrepreneur; a loving and caring person who wants to spread love and positivity through her passions.

Marisol


(MamaNaturalista.com)
“Success is having a flair for the thing that you are doing; knowing that is not enough, that you have got to have hard work and a sense of purpose”

– Margaret Thatcher

A mother, dedicated, hard working, and kind; supplied me the opportunity to see her city for real.

Karen


(KarensBodyBeautiful.com)
“I personally measure success in terms of the contributions an individual makes to her or his fellow human beings”

– Margaret Mead

A mother, an entrepreneur, a creator; brought about greatness to the natural hair community with her products and that Fro she rocks.

Markeeta

(AllThingsKeetaRay.com)
“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow”

– Helen Keller

An inspiration, kind-hearted, faith filled, and caring; helping the world follow their passions through faith.

Myleik


(CurlBox.com)
“Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success”

– Dr. Joyce Brothers

An entrepreneur, driven, and intelligent; creator of the product junkie’s heaven, and is very supportive towards her customers.

Jenell


(KinkyCurlyCoilyMe.com)
“It’s your life… why not fill it with as much joy as possible?”

– Bonnie St. John

A mother, sweet, and upbeat; aids natural hair ladies to maintain and take care of their hair, also providing fun monthly natural hair events.

 

Be sure to show them some love and check out their sites. Don’t forget to feel inspired by these lovely ladies as well.

 

 

 

Love your Kinks,

BkAphrodite

Disclaimer: I do not own any of the photos. They have been taken by each lady and copied form their Instagram.

Tressumé: Jamie Fleming-Dixon

Name:   Jamie Fleming-Dixon

                             Location: South Carolina                                                         

 Dreamer. Lover of life. Goal getter. These are just a few words to describe Jamie Fleming-Dixon, inspirational writer, blogger, editor and F.A.B. Life Strategist. She is the founder and editor-in-chief of For Colored Gurls, a personal development blog with the mission of inspiring and empowering women to live their most Fabulous lives. Additionally, she is owner of Mocha Writer, a boutique copy editing and proofreading service.

Jamie is also the author of How to Change Your Mindset + Live Your Most Fabulous Life, a motivational book, providing practical tips for creating a more positive mindset and living the life of one’s dream. She has been featured in several websites, blogs, magazines and Blog Talk Radio Shows, including TheCEOMamma.com, AfroElle Magazine and Prominence Magazine and was recently named one of the 2012 50 Fabulous Women Entrepreneurs on BBWO (Black Business Women Online). Visit her online at jamieflemingdixon.com.

 

How long have you been natural?
Four years

Did you always have dreads or did you transition?I transitioned after having my natural hair out for a year.

Why did you choose that route? When I first began transitioning to natural, I didn’t considered locking my hair; I just wanted big, kinky-curly hair. After a year of being natural, I began wearing twists, and I really liked the look. I also wanted the changes going on inside of me to be reflected on the outside.

What inspired you to have locs?
The year I started them, 2008, I had many changes in my life, including graduating from college. Because I felt I was transitioning into another level in my life and becoming a new me, so to speak, I wanted that change to reflect on the outside, too. So, I decided to loc my hair.

What has kept you motivated to remain with your locs? One reason is because they’re super low maintenance. I’m kind of lazy when it comes to doing my hair (lol), so locs are perfect for me. I also love the way they look on me.

What are two(2) natural hair products that you just can’t live without? Why? I don’t use many products, but I’ll say extra virgin olive oil diluted with water (in a spray bottle) and White Rain Tropical Coconut Hydrating Conditioner.

What is your favorite way to wear your hair?                                                        Braid-out

What do you love about your natural hair? I love that it’s low-maintenance, unique and that it’s my very own God-given hair.

What do you dislike about it? I have a dry scalp, so I often get dandruff. I haven’t quite figured out how to get rid of it yet, but the olive oil helps.

What tip(s) would you recommend to someone who wants to become natural, is transitioning, or needs advice about natural hair? I would say be patient; stressing about your length or whatever you’re worrying about won’t make your hair grow longer or faster. Look at photos, blogs and websites if you need advice or inspiration – just keep in mind that everyone’s hair is unique. And lastly, love and cherish the beautiful hair the Creator has blessed you with!

Can we get some TWA love?

Searching around the net time and time again I bump into a couple natural hair ladies; as it begins to sweep the nation and world more and more women are embracing their natural curls, kinks, and coils. Of course almost every natural haired woman wants long healthy hair and has a “hair crush”.

If you are not certain what a “hair crush” exactly is, I am here to enlighten you.

Hair Crush: Person whose natural hair entices you so much your crushing on their hair. These persons usually have long flowing curls or a really big fro in which the crusher would like for their hair to look the same as or similar to.

Hmmmm…

I appreciate all of the ladies with the long curly natural hair but, I DONT appreciate that the TWA ladies are not recognized as much. Many of those long hair, big fro ladies had to start somewhere which was that TWA . Why don’t we recognize their hair journeys and not their hair lengths.

To help motivate the women rocking those TWA’s I have put together a collection of TWA Hair Crushes…..Enjoy!

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Thank You ladies for being bold, confident, and most of all beautiful. You all are my hair crushes.

Love your Kinks,

BkAphrodite

Kings &Queens….We Rule Together

As Goddess’ or Queens we are important in this world along with our Kings. I recently came across the young King Curran J. of Kings Rule Together (K.R.T) who posses a rather exquisite style and mindset. In 2010, his brand Kings Rule Together was created “to showcase his various interests and bridge the gap between the everyday man and fashion aficionado”, as well as spreading the positivity and peace amongst people today.

In 2011, Curran J launched the Kings Rule Together clothing line, encouraging Kings and Queens alike to embrace their inner excellence and prestige. Since its launch, K.R.T. has sold over 1500 pieces throughout the world, including in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, and the United States.

Source: KingsRuleTogether.com

I was very inspired by the message that the young King Curran was spreading and had to speak with him. I got the chance to interview him to share with you a deeper look into his brand K.R.T.

What inspired you to create your brand Kings Rule Together?
The people that supported me inspired me to do so. I was always doing something, whether it be planning or creating events, setting trends, or just implementing positivity in my life or the lives of others. It first started with my blog kingsruletogether.com and then after that came the clothing brand.

Kings Rule Together; how did you come up with this name for your brand?
When I was younger, my friend used to refer to me as “King.” It was basically a supplement for using the n-word, which black people have used as a term of endearment. The reality is that the n-word’s history comes from a dark and painful place in black culture and history. In history, leaders have always had followers, but leaders also surrounded themselves around other leaders. The same thing went for Kings in history, they worked together to solve common issues and even at times to create mergers. It helped them grow as a King.

How do you think your brand Kings Rule Together will help change the outlook of people towards one another?
Instead of people pitting themselves against each other, I believe that people will actually come together to get things done. It’s always great to be independent and self-sufficient, but the issue is that everyone has become so competitive and not even in the best way. It causes for people to want to step on others just so that they can reach their goals. Kings Rule Together is not about that and that is what I believe attracts people to the brand. I’m Curran, but Curran can build up another fellow King or Queen so that everyone wins at the end of the day.

What makes Kings Rule Together stand out from all other brands?
The message is what makes KRT stand out brightly from others. In today’s society people are so focused on trends, but in the fashion world what’s here today can quickly be gone tomorrow. My focus of course was to create something that people would want to wear, but also I wanted to make something that people would be proud of wearing. People need to hear phrases such as “Kings Rule Together”, Kings INSPIRE kings” and “Queens INSPIRE Kings”, because it makes them feel good. It promotes self worth.

What inspired you to develop the idea of the “Kings Inspire Kings” tee ?
The same premise stemmed from the ideology behind Kings Rule Together as a brand. A male having a positive male figure in his life could make all of the difference in the world. It’s all about unity, appreciation and recognizing your peers as well as those who came before you.

What inspired you to develop the idea of the “Queens Inspire Kings” tee?
Behind every great King stands a wonderful Queen. Great Queens have helped shape and mold me into the man that I am today. It’s an amazing and important thing that Kings Rule Together makes note of this.

What has been your biggest accomplishment as Curran J. the entrepreneur?
In December, I took part in a video with Pharrell Williams for a movement and campaign called i am OTHER. It was a great experience. I also took part in Philly Fashion Week a couple of years ago. I’ve met amazing people along the way, and it surprises me sometimes how many people have heard of my brand. There’s a lot of love that goes behind that, which encourages me to keep on going.

What has been the biggest accomplishment for your brand Kings Rule Together?
The actor, Jaden Smith, and the actor and BET 106 & Park host, Terrence J, have both been wearing the brand. Most of all my brand is growing everyday. People of all ages, races, sexes, and sizes are supporting the brand. It makes me feel proud that people are really interested in Kings Rule Together.

Where do you see Kings Rule Together 5 years from now?
I expect to see Kings Rule Together become a household name. I want to see a non-profit also come out of it as well as definitely expanding from just doing clothing. My vision for Kings Rule Together is to go extremely far and mark an imprint in society. It’s about longevity and not the short-term.

If you could describe your brand Kings Rule Together in one word what would it be? Why?
INSPIRE. Sometimes people need something to create a spark for them- they need inspiration. The word “INSPIRE” is a significant part of Kings Rule Together given the fact that the message is boldly printed on many of the apparel. By people choosing to wear this brand they are inspiring those who see the message on the shirt. I’ve heard my customers say that people love the shirt that they are wearing and they often ask questions about the meaning. When they hear about the meaning, they become INSPIRED.

What else can we expect to see from Curran J.? Kings Rule Together?
In the future, I definitely plan on going on more philanthropic ventures. As I explained before about Kings Rule Together being a household name in the future, I also want the same thing for myself. It’s not particularly about the fame and the money, but it’s more about the positive values that I want to instill in people and the generations to come.

As for Kings Rule Together, expect to see two summer series lines. I will be having a basketball game coming up as well sponsored by myself. Kings Rule Together will continue to grow and expand- it will evolve. In the future there will definitely be a clothing line for children and even more.

Where can Kings Rule Together items be purchased?
Anyone can purchase KRT merchandise from my website kingsruletogether.com/shop or from any of the events that I appear.

Creating a fulfilling life

6 Tips to Live in Peace and Balance: What to Let Go

Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Anastasiya Goers

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” ~Havelock Ellis

Imagine that you have to move in two days. Would you be able to pack all your possessions in that time and clean out your house completely?

How about your mental baggage? If you have only two days left to finish all the important projects in your life, would you be able to do it?

Three years ago I left the country where I was born and raised and moved permanently to a different place half way around the globe.

Packing was not easy because there were so many things that were meaningful to me but of course I couldn’t take them all. But even more difficult was the part of leaving my friends and family behind. I couldn’t put my friends in a suitcase and smuggle them across the border.

However, the hardest part was still ahead. Soon after I got to the US I realized that I had to let go of a lot of habits and even my lifestyle. Everything was so different from where I grew up.

I had two choices: to hold on to my past, complain, and be completely miserable or let go of everything that was no longer relevant and start a new life while still holding on to my authentic self.

You may not have had to go through such drastic changes in life. However, we all face the dilemma of letting go and holding on.

A lot of times if we are not forced to let go of something we keep dragging 10, 20, 40 years of mental and physical baggage behind us. At some point that baggage becomes so unbearably heavy that we just decide to stop moving forward and start living in the past.

We stop having new goals and dreams. We stop meeting new people. We stop trying new things. We stop learning. But, ironically, we still keep buying and acquiring more physical clutter to fill our homes and closets.

Of course, on the other hand if you throw away everything you love and enjoy, then suddenly you lose your personality. Frankly speaking, you cease to know yourself then.

So, quoting Havelock Ellis again, how do you mingle letting go and holding on? The answer to this question will give you the ultimate inner peace and balance.

1. Physical clutter.

In the world where buying is easier than walking (buying a new gadget requires minimum energy—pick up the phone and order it) it’s really difficult to keep our houses clutter free.

When you try to clean up, throwing away stuff that you no longer use comes easy—like a sweater that has stains from a barbecue party or your kids’ toys that they no longer play with. But how about things that you are emotionally attached to? It’s a totally different story.

Make a stack of things that have meaning to you, look at every item in that stack, and ask yourself “What does this thing really mean to me? If I don’t own it, will I still be able to keep the memories that are dear to me? Can someone else in my family have better use of this item?”

It’s even better to ask someone else to go over this stack with you. While you are emotionally attached to all these items another person (your friend, spouse or a family member) will give you logical reasons why you should or should not hold on to this thing.

Hold on only to a few mementoes that remind you about a particular joyful period. Find a good way to display them where they don’t obstruct your living space or devote only one closet to all your mementoes. Whatever you can’t fit in that closet has to find another home.

2. Dreams and goals.

As years pass we grow and change. Your goals and dreams should grow and change with you.

Can you imagine if all of us held on to the dreams that we had when we were 6-7 years old? Who did you want to be back then? I wanted to be a teacher, not because I wanted to teach others but because I liked to grade papers (in my mind, grading papers with red ink was THE coolest thing in the world.)

At each stage of our life we are allowed to have different dreams and goals. As we mature we can let some of our dreams “retire” because we discover goals that are more important to us. Letting go of a dream doesn’t mean that you have failed at reaching it. It means that you have cleared space for a more meaningful and mature goal in your life.

Hold on to the dreams and goals that are authentic and that represent who you. Let go of the ones that you don’t feel so strong about anymore and always create new ones.

3. Expectations.

One of the worst things in life is always trying to meet somebody’s expectations.

If you are always trying to reach the approval of others then you will never be able to live peacefully. None of us is perfect in the eyes of the others. None of us is perfect, period. The only way that we can be successful and perfect is if we set our own standards and follow our own road in life.

Of course, hold on to some social norms and politeness and also consider the feelings and wellbeing of the people you love. Being authentic and true to yourself doesn’t mean becoming selfish or thoughtless.

4. Bad habits.

Is there any reason to keep bad habits in your life? Constant improvement is a sure sign of a balanced and happy person. A lot of times letting go of a habit is difficult. That’s why so many of us (me included) fail at this goal.

The only way that you can change your lifestyle is to plant a firm decision into your head. You are not doing it for someone else, you are not doing it because you are expected to. You are doing it because you want to live the best life and you care about the people around you who might be suffering from your bad habit.

Choose one habit that you want to work with and “prepay” 20% of your success. It’s a marketing strategy that works great for attracting customers as well as tricking your brain into starting a transformation.

If you want to lose some weight what would you much rather do—get on a strict diet or stop eating sweets after lunch? Unless you are a disciplinary freak of nature you would choose not eating sweets after lunch. By doing that for a week you have “prepaid” for your success. Next week it will be easier for you to start cutting your portions or move from an egg and bacon biscuit for breakfast to some healthy oatmeal.

Hold on to some of your habits (for right now). One of the main reasons why people fail at transforming their bad habits is because they do too much too fast. Choose just one habit and work on it until you have succeeded.

5. Memories and experiences.

Our brain is hard-wired into noticing and holding on to negative events five times more effectively than positive ones. This phenomenon is called “negativity bias.” It’s the reason why we keep dwelling on a negative conversation with a colleague at work instead of noticing the roses bloom outside.

The only way to fight this built-in negativity is to focus on positive events and make sure that your brain remembers them as vividly as it does negative ones.

Hold on to your positive memories by writing them down. A recent study published in Psychology Today suggested that it takes 5 positive events to outweigh one negative one in your life. Whenever you start feeling the attack of negative thoughts think of as many positive events of the day as possible.

Focus on the joys of present day and stop dwelling in the past.

6. People.

Sometimes we have to make a decision to let go of people in our lives.

It’s in your best interests to let go of difficult and negative people, those who constantly bring you down or undermine your efforts to improve your lifestyle. If they are unwilling to understand your current goals then you are better off without them.

If you are not able to let go then you might want to minimize the time that you spend with them.

Hold on to your close friends, your confidants. Whether it is your spouse, your family member or a friend please make it a priority to spend time with them, to share your joys, ask for advice, and have fun together. It will make you happier and more positive and it can even improve your health.

Letting go is not as hard as it seems. Every little thing that you let go of today makes room for something new and amazing in your life. A life of genuine balance and peace starts when you learn to let go without regret and hold on with gratitude.

Photo by H.Koppdelaney

Source:Tiny Buddha

Until next time….

Love,
BkAphrodite