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Tressumé Little’s: Denver

Name: Denver

Me and Nana

As a mom or dad to a/or natural little(s), what do you think is your duty to teach them

about their hair?   That they should be who they are regardless of how they wear their

hair or regardless of how society feels about what’s acceptable or non acceptable.IMG_20120415_171526

What’s on the inner is far more precious than what’s on the outer, yet it’s beautiful to

express “yourself” on the inner and the outer.


If your child (ren) ever wanted to get a relaxer, would you allow them to? Why or why


The thought has not even crossed my mind. I’ve had my hair relaxed from childhood up

until about 11 months ago. My mother decided that a relaxer made it easier for her to

handle my hair. After  abstaining from relaxing my hair I’ve learned how to maintain my

hair  without it.  I will teach my child how to do the same. If they get older and request a

relaxer I may allow it and maintain their relaxer myself just as I did for myself from the

age of 18-26. Being that our hair textures are the same they would only need a

relaxer about every 4 months so it would be limited to 2 relaxers a year.

How would you help them learn to appreciate the beauty of their natural hair?

I would do as I do now. I would forever tell my children and anyone else to embrace the

way that every part of you happens to be in it’s natural state, but if something really

bothers you then you should address it according to what will make “you” happy.


How old is/are your little(s)?

Denver is 5. (And I also have a 9 year old daughter and a 2 year old son).

How do they feel about their natural hair?

There’s a natural love for  their natural hair, and I try to do different things with it toIMG_20121202_202952

keep it that way. It can be overwhelming sometimes though. I cut my son’s hair  to have

one less head to braid.


Do you feel that you have impacted their beliefs about their hair? And why?

My daughters think that my hair is beautiful and have told me so on many occasions. If

they think that my hair is beautiful and their texture is very similar to mine then they’ll

think the same of their own hair as well. My baby girl smiles every time I finish combing

her hair, looks in the mirror and says, “My hair is beautiful”. I used to feel like, “The

straighter the better”, but I’ve been embracing the natural waves and curls and I love it!


What products do you typically use on their hair?

I pretty much make my own products, but to name some things I’ll say, grease, (Of

course!), shampoo with olive oil in it,  conditioner,  a blend of oils, ( Olive oil, Jojoba

Oil, etc.), pomade for edge control, hair pudding, sometimes a little spritz, and leave in

conditioner  or detangler. We have really thick hair and these products help me with

combing thru my daughter’s hair while eliminating  the tears.


What is their favorite way to wear their natural hair?

Right now it’s french braids with beads. Sometimes I press it out which stretches the

braids out longer. My son wears a cut that’s not so low so that you can still see theNanasHair

natural curl in his hair. Before cutting his hair I would either braid it to the back or put

pudding in his hair and curl strands of his hair around my finger. As it got thicker I

would use the pudding while braiding separate braids then take the braids loose and

let him wear the little curls all over his head. But there’s SO many cute ways to do your little’s natural hair.


How do you usually manage your little’s hair?

I like to rotate on a schedule for hair washing times. I don’t like having to wash more

than one head in the same week but sometimes I’m forced to. I have to do a spot wash

on my 2 year old son’s hair as he gets any food that he eats in his hair! I also like to do

multiple ponytails with 3strand braids sometimes. It’ll usually last 2-3 days if wrapped

at night.


What tips would you give to a mom or dad who needs help dealing with their little’s

natural hair?

I would say that it’s important to learn your little one’s hair  well. Learn what works

best in their hair. Test out different oils, butters, conditioners, etc. and find the best

natural mixture before jumping to put strong chemicals in your child’s hair. French

braids with beads is also a cute option that can take combing hair off of your hands

for at least 2 weeks. My mother took me to the salon at 10 to start getting relaxers in

my hair. It began to thin my hair out and my mother had to strip it out of my hair  andIMG_20120821_184955

treat it so that it could get it’s strength and length back. So there’s always a risk when

dealing with harsh chemicals. Especially on the little ones.



We live in a world that focuses on the outer yet does not always embrace the outer in

it’s natural form and beauty. Kinky hair may take more time to manage but it is

beautiful if managed correctly. We were conditioned to think that other hair textures

from other races are what’s beautiful and in return rejected our natural beauty. Many

will describe our natural beauty as “Ugly”, “Nappy”, etc. which causes many of our

women of color to feel uncomfortable with their natural beauty. I don’t knock anyone

for  relaxing their hair and hate the hate that has grown between the “All-Natural”

women and the “Creamy Crack” using women. I’ve seen full arguments online about it.

I just wish for everyone to learn their hair, except who they are naturally, be

comfortable in their own skin regardless of how their hair texture may be, and to stop

judging others with such shallow perspectives.

Thank you for considering me and my little one’s “Tresume`”. – Queesha


Tressumé: Keturah Ariel Nailah Bobo


NameKeturah Ariel Nailah Bobo

Keturah Ariel Bobo

                                                    Location: Columbus, Ohio                                                                                           

Found this AMAZING lady on my usual Instagram flow, and let me tell y’all! Girl got some bomb ass skills with the art!

Y’all gotta check out her Tressumé, to learn about this talented young lady.

How long have you been natural?

I have been natural for a little over two yearsketurahart

Did you transition or do the Big Chop?

I transitioned for 6months and then did the big chop, although I cut parts of it along the way.

Why did you choose that route?  

I have always had a lot of hair, and so wearing my hair short was a little frightening. Plus, I have a big head, so I didn’t think rocking a short cut would be cute.

How long did you transition?

6 months , cutting bangs first then so on and so forth.

What inspired you to have natural hair?

I was working at the Columbus Museum of Art under the contemporary art curator. She probably was my biggest hair inspiration, because she was a professional woman of color with gorgeous natural hair working in an institution where no one looks like her.

What has kept you motivated to remain natural?

I LOVE the versatility of being natural. I love wearing various textures of curls, but I also love to wear it straight from time to time. Basically, I was tired of looking like the same person everyday, being natural gave me freedom.

What are two(2) natural hair products that you just can’t live without? Why?

Crème of Nature Conditioning Shampoo and Knot Today by Kinky Curly. My hair has the tendency to become a tangled hot mess and these products both make my hair soft and easy to detangle.

What is your favorite way to wear your hair?

girl1Right now I have been trying the bantu knot outs which, so far I love velocity.

What do you love about your natural hair?

I feel more myself than I felt before. It’s an amazing feeling.

What do you dislike about it?

I have a hard time controlling my hair to stay in particular styles, especially in humidity.  Sometimes the unruly behavior works for me, in humidity it’s almost always against me.

What tip(s) would you recommend to someone who wants to become natural, is transitioning, or needs advice about natural hair?

Just do it, you will love it. Every act of change has a transitional period. Tough it out, put your eyes on the prize, and your back to the wind. It’s an amazing bond, the one a black girl creates with her hair, especially when perhaps her whole life she’s been told that who she is naturally, isn’t beautiful.

Comments: Please check out my art. With the response that I have been receiving about the paintings, I realized there’s a market for natural hair art. It’s about embracing who you are. It’s beautiful, and I want to continue to be apart of this movement. More art is on it’s way!

Find me on any social media site: keturahAriel


Check out a little slideshow of the rest of Keturah’s dope work. This is RAW talent and I am IMPRESSED! She created my future chiren y’all. LOL! Peep the hair on these lovely kids.

Tressumé: Quianna Taylor


Name: Quianna Taylor

Natural Hair Pic 3

Location: Washington, DC  

Met this lovely lady while on one of my excursions to DC and I was drawn to her hair. Isn’t it just amazing; peep the hair clip below! Might wanna check her out.



How long have you been natural?

I have been natural for almost seven years.Natural Hair Pic 4

Did you transition or do the Big Chop?   Why did you choose that route?

I have done both.  When I initially went natural I transitioned.  I wore a lot of weaves and cornrows and other protective styles and gradually cut back the damaged relaxed off.   I made sure that I kept my hair moisturized and my scalp healthy and took my weaves out every four to five weeks to wash and condition my hair.   I did this for about 2 years.  But like a lot of women, I was used to processing and manipulating my hair in some kind of way.  After I stopped relaxing, I  became addicted to color, which can alter your hair’s natural texture.  I probably did more damage to my hair  with color, than the relaxer, looking back at it.  But I continued to grow it out.  Then about a two years ago I was having a very stressful time in my life.  I wasn’t honoring my hair and body the way I needed to.  I wasn’t eating in a balanced or regular way and it was taking a visible and tangible toll on my hair.  It started breaking off and thinning out out.  November 2011 I decided I needed a change.  I woke up and took a shower and washed my hair.  When I got out, I grabbed some scissors and cut it all off.  And honestly I had never felt so free as a natural woman.  I had nothing to hide behind or conform to.

What inspired you to have natural hair?

I unintentionally went natural.  I got a bad perm that gave me a really bad burn on my scalp.  As a result I decided that I would not relax my hair for about six months to a year.  Around this same time I was growing and redefining what I thought beauty meant and how that idea of beauty related to how I see myself.  At that time I decided to begin embrace who I  am, and a large part of that was embracing my natural hair Natural Hair Pic 2texture.  Now I see natural hair everywhere and I think it is all beautiful.

What has kept you motivated to remain natural?

For me, this is one of the easiest ways to remain true to heritage and honor them, while honoring myself.  I am a mix of African American, Jewish, Irish, Cherokee, and Creole.  My genetic makeup is very diverse and multifaceted.    My hair is a made up of many textures, and each different texture is a part of who I am.

What are two(2) natural hair products that you just can’t live without? Why?

Crème of Nature Conditioner with Argan Oil because I co-wash and condition my hair with it.  And Olive Oil because it’s awesome as a moisturizer and a sealant.  But my new favorite products are Elasta QP Olive Oil & Mango Butter Moisturizer and Elasta QP Olive Oil & Mango Butter Curl Definer.  I apply these to wet hair and flat twist.  Let my hair air dry overnight and remove.  My hair is moisturized and set for about 5-6 days, which is fantastic!

What is your favorite way to wear your hair?

I love flat twist outs.  That is my go to hair style because they are quick and easy to maintain.

What do you love about your natural hair?

It is 100% me.  Even on bad hair days.

What do you dislike about it?Natural Hair 5

Sometimes it just will not cooperate.  Oh…and I can’t wear low ponytails anymore.  It requires too much time and gel.  (BTW I Love Ecostyler)

What tip(s) would you recommend to someone who wants to become natural, is transitioning, or needs advice about natural hair?

Be patient and kind to your hair.  Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize.  Don’t color excessively.  And lastly get your hands in there, get to know your hair and just have fun.


Embracing my natural hair has opened my eyes to embracing culture more fully.  I created a line ethnic inspired jewelry called Soul & Substance (  My items are inspired by and take their cues from tribal jewelry.

Kings and Queens: Little’s edition!!

Hello all,

I have decided to bring something new and exciting to Aphrodite Kinks. You may have guessed it by the title…. Well, for sometime I wanted these slop a way to involve and inspire the moms and dads, when it comes to their natural haired littles. This being said I have developed Tressumé’s for the mommy’s and daddy’s of the natural littles community.

Please come along and share your journey with your children and their natural hair. If you would like to be apart of these interviews please do email me, for details.

Love their Kinks,

Tressumé: Karen Marley

Name: Karen Marley

Location: Los Angeles, CA

Karen Marley is an entrepreneur, fashionista, beautiful spirit, and daughter to legend, Bob Marley. She has an eye for fashion, sharing that with many through her exuberant style and boutique, Buttons and Bows LA.

I am extremely humbled to have gotten the opportunity to get an interview with the amazing Karen Marley. Not only am I humbled, I was excited as all heck to share this with you all too. Check out Karen’s natural hair journey below.

How long have you been natural?
I’ve been natural since early 2000.

Did you transition or do the Big Chop?
I did the “Big Chop”.

Why did you choose that route?
I chose that route because I had been using relaxers and heat (styling) on my hair for many years whilst I lived in Jamaica but after I moved to London in 1999, I couldn’t find a hair stylist to maintain my straight hair the way I liked and was used to. I decided the easiest option for me was to go natural. Within days of cutting my hair I felt the difference, fell in love with my curls and have never looked back.

What inspired you to have natural hair?
Sparing my hair from heat, chemicals and not having to spend hours at the hair salon inspired me to go natural.

What has kept you motivated to remain natural?
Besides all the compliments I receive, it is extremely healthy, it feels great and the natural look encompasses my “healthy living” lifestyle.

What are two(2) natural hair products that you just can’t live without? Why?
I actually have three, Kinky Curly’s shampoo & conditioner and Curling Custard. These products keep my curls shiny, tamed, manageable and easy to style.

What is your favorite way to wear your hair?
I like it short with a little length at the top because it’s easier to manage, yet versatile so I can still have fun with it.

What do you love about your natural hair?
I love the formation of the curls and the fact that my hair is free of harsh and damaging agents.

What do you dislike about it?
I do not like that I have to wash and style my hair every morning.

What tip(s) would you recommend to someone who wants to become natural, is transitioning, or needs advice about natural hair?
I would advise someone with natural hair or transitioning to keep hair very moisturized and only use alcohol-free products.

If your ever in LA be sure to stop by Buttons and Bows LA for you fashion fix!

**Disclaimer: All photos were taken from the Buttons and Bows LA instagram page. I do not own any of these pictures**

Tressumé: Jamie Fleming-Dixon

Name:   Jamie Fleming-Dixon

                             Location: South Carolina                                                         

 Dreamer. Lover of life. Goal getter. These are just a few words to describe Jamie Fleming-Dixon, inspirational writer, blogger, editor and F.A.B. Life Strategist. She is the founder and editor-in-chief of For Colored Gurls, a personal development blog with the mission of inspiring and empowering women to live their most Fabulous lives. Additionally, she is owner of Mocha Writer, a boutique copy editing and proofreading service.

Jamie is also the author of How to Change Your Mindset + Live Your Most Fabulous Life, a motivational book, providing practical tips for creating a more positive mindset and living the life of one’s dream. She has been featured in several websites, blogs, magazines and Blog Talk Radio Shows, including, AfroElle Magazine and Prominence Magazine and was recently named one of the 2012 50 Fabulous Women Entrepreneurs on BBWO (Black Business Women Online). Visit her online at


How long have you been natural?
Four years

Did you always have dreads or did you transition?I transitioned after having my natural hair out for a year.

Why did you choose that route? When I first began transitioning to natural, I didn’t considered locking my hair; I just wanted big, kinky-curly hair. After a year of being natural, I began wearing twists, and I really liked the look. I also wanted the changes going on inside of me to be reflected on the outside.

What inspired you to have locs?
The year I started them, 2008, I had many changes in my life, including graduating from college. Because I felt I was transitioning into another level in my life and becoming a new me, so to speak, I wanted that change to reflect on the outside, too. So, I decided to loc my hair.

What has kept you motivated to remain with your locs? One reason is because they’re super low maintenance. I’m kind of lazy when it comes to doing my hair (lol), so locs are perfect for me. I also love the way they look on me.

What are two(2) natural hair products that you just can’t live without? Why? I don’t use many products, but I’ll say extra virgin olive oil diluted with water (in a spray bottle) and White Rain Tropical Coconut Hydrating Conditioner.

What is your favorite way to wear your hair?                                                        Braid-out

What do you love about your natural hair? I love that it’s low-maintenance, unique and that it’s my very own God-given hair.

What do you dislike about it? I have a dry scalp, so I often get dandruff. I haven’t quite figured out how to get rid of it yet, but the olive oil helps.

What tip(s) would you recommend to someone who wants to become natural, is transitioning, or needs advice about natural hair? I would say be patient; stressing about your length or whatever you’re worrying about won’t make your hair grow longer or faster. Look at photos, blogs and websites if you need advice or inspiration – just keep in mind that everyone’s hair is unique. And lastly, love and cherish the beautiful hair the Creator has blessed you with!

Tressumé: Philece R. (thatArtista)

Philece. R/thatArtista

Location: Island girl living in Atlanta

Philece is extremely talented; a Fine Artist & Designer, creating, growing, constantly evolving. Be sure to check out her journey.

How long have you been natural?
My last relaxer was in January 2003

Did you transition or do the Big Chop?
My relaxer days ended during a time when natural hair terms weren’t as common as they are now. So I guess I transitioned without even realizing. However I also cut my hair frequently and significantly over the years out of boredom and the need for a new style.

Why did you choose that route?
I can’t say that I chose that route, it just kind of happened.

If transition,
How long did you transition?
I have always worn my curls even with a relaxer, between that and multiple haircuts, it’s hard to say when I reached the point of no longer having relaxed ends.

What inspired you to have natural hair?
There was no specific inspirational factor in my decision. My only reason for getting a relaxer was to have bone straight hair when the mood hit. Once I learned how to do that safely and without chemicals there was no longer a need. Though in recent years I have straighten my hair less than ever before.

What has kept you motivated to remain natural?
I have lived with this hair all of my life. It’s all me, no motivation needed!

What are two(2) natural hair products that you just can’t live without? Why?
Shea Moisture products and coconut oil. The Shea Moisture line is amazing for softness and moisture and the fragrances are heavenly.

What is your favorite way to wear your hair?
Last year I started doing braid outs and twist outs. But I have spent a lifetime being a wash and go girl, so it’s safe to say my favorite way, whether it’s piled on top of my head or letting my curls just flow.

What do you love about your natural hair?
I love the versatility, especially since I get bored very easily so its great to have so many options. I don’t worry or run when it starts raining. Growing up in the Bahamas and living in Atlanta, with the heat and humidity, I’m not worried about what it looks like and being a swimmer, I can jump in the ocean or the pool without a second thought!

What do you dislike about it?
The shrinkage. It’s insane, I lose about half of my length because of it.

What tip(s) would you recommend to someone who wants to become natural, is transitioning, or needs advice about natural hair?
I get a lot of questions about my curls and length. My answer always starts with, learn what works for YOUR hair. For those concerned about length retention, be patient and attentive. Your hair will always show you what it needs and what doesn’t work. Most importantly never forget that it is not just about what you put on your hair but what you put into your body that is so important in achieving healthy hair and a healthier you.

Thanks for the feature, it was my pleasure to share my story.
Love & Light

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